We all want the same thing for the people we love, and that is to care for them. We want to make them feel that we value their presence in our lives. At the same time, we also want the best things for them, which is why we also feel bad when they are suffering from any challenge or struggle with a problem. According to a journal on online therapy, the human person is always sensitive to the feelings of the people who matter in his life. As such, we must not feel shocked to find out that we usually have strong feelings for our loved ones.
Having data on what actually helps (and hurts) is crucial for living well with chronic pain because, unfortunately, acting from intuition or common sense sometimes worsens symptoms. — Deborah Barrett Ph.D., LCSW
Unfortunately, there are some bad days in life that you may share with your partner. In this article, our primary focus would be on the disorder named dysautonomia. It is a complication in a person’s autonomic nervous system or ANS. As a result, the individual who is suffering from this illness will experience some failures in his internal organs. Dysautonomia affects the blood vessels, intestines, heart, bladder and even pupils.
If your loved one is going through this disorder, it is best if you will make an effort to remain strong for the said person. Make sure that you show him that you are always there for him no matter what happens. Below is a list of the five ways to show how you can support your spouse or boyfriend in this challenging time of his life:
Maintain Good Communication Line
Never forget the importance of communicating effectively with your partner. Let him know that he can open up to you at any time of the day. He must not feel that you are drifting away from him because of his current health condition. Instead, show him signs that he can approach you anytime whenever he wants to talk. Be sure to be sensitive to all the things that you will tell him as he may get hurt easily.
In my experience, people struggling with illness want acknowledgement about how hard their situation is. — Tamara McClintock Greenberg Psy.D.
Never Blame Him
Stop looking for a reason to blame your partner’s condition. Never make the mistake of telling him the line “I told you so” when it comes to referring to his state. At the same time, do not say to him that his misery is a product of his mindset. Take note that he is going through a tough time and he does not need to hear your negativity. Instead, inspire him to keep going.
Spend Quality Time Together
Find time to bond with your partner who is suffering from dysautonomia. Do not let his sickness prevent you from having quality time together. It is highly recommended for both of you to take some time off from your usual activities and go for stuff that you can enjoy doing together. The advantage of doing this regularly is that you can maintain your intimate relationship with the other person. At the same time, getting his much-needed rest with the one he loves can also improve his mental health. As such, he may develop a better tolerance for his sickness.
Accompany Him In All Checkups
One of the basic things that you can also do to show your support to the other person is to accompany him in all medical checkups. If possible, cancel your appointments on the day when he is set to meet his doctor. He needs your moral support. Take note that you are the only person who can make him feel calm whenever he feels threatened and afraid by the symptoms of dysautonomia.
If almost half of us share this experience, why aren’t we talking about it? — Katie Willard Virant MSW, JD, LCSW
Make Him Feel Loved At All Times
Do not underestimate the significance of showing love and affection to the other person regularly. Your never-ending support to the one you love will be one of the reasons why your partner is going to fight the battle against the disorder. What you need to do to make him feel this way and to sustain such thought is to remind him every single day that you love him. You can also surprise him on certain days so that he can feel happy despite having the condition.
Remember that you are a strong person and you can get through this stage in your life. Just have faith that things are going to turn for the better when the time is right.